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STUDENTS
Charity Begins at Home
WE HAD BEEN WAITING FOR WEEKS. Then the e-mail came
telling us what we wanted to know. The subject line was hopeful:
Maybe Baby. Charity Bell, a second-year MPA student, might be getting
a new baby. Feel free to call me late on Monday, she
wrote, when Ill know more.
The baby did come. A boy. Sitting in the Forum two
days later, Bell easily holds him in one arm, rocking slowly. A
navy blue stroller is parked next to the table, her bookbag hooked
on the handle. A stranger walking through the school might not look
twice at the scene: a young mother and her newborn, visiting in
between exams.
But things are not always what they seem.
For starters, Bell is not your typical graduate student:
shes a 29-year-old emergency foster parent, without a car
or trust fund, caring for babies on her own. And the baby, just
seven days old, is smaller than most. A little more than five pounds.
Wrapped in a fleece blanket wearing a cotton, striped cap, he is
amazingly quiet despite scraping chairs and the clank of pans and
dishes in the nearby kitchen. His eyes never open. Born to a woman
who abused cocaine, he sleeps more than other babies. Its
their way of dealing with withdrawal, Bell explains, stroking
the boys tiny palm. They try to escape.
Like the 47 other kids that Bell has taken in since
she became licensed by the Massachusetts Department of Social Services
(DSS) in 1997 (almost all babies, most drug addicted), this baby
came with little notice. He may leave just as quickly.
Bells foster care began as a short-term hotline
parent when she was 23. At the time she was volunteering at a hospital
when she noticed a little girl who never got visitors. The girl,
she learned, was in between foster families. Bell was floored. In
a city this rich, I found that amazing, she says. She called
DSS and started the training to become a foster parent.
Now she keeps the babies longer. Her first was a newborn
that, for safety reasons, had to be whisked away from the hospital.
He was only 17 hours old. Unfortunately he got sick and spent five
days in the neonatal intensive care unit an exhausting experience
that became an eye opener for Bell.
Thats when I realized what being a foster
parent was really about, she says. I stayed with him.
Some friends, even the nurses, were surprised. It never crossed
my mind to leave. If it had been my [biological] baby, people would
have helped. Someone would have brought me a toothbrush. But no
one came. It wasnt my baby.
Sitting in the Forum, Bell looks away from time to
time to say hello to other students who pass by. How olds
this one? someone asks. Boy or girl? says another.
Bell and her babies have become a common fixture around the school,
even going to class and the library together.
I didnt give the school an Option B,
she jokes. This is the end game at the Kennedy School. This,
she says, pointing to the baby, who is still sleeping, is
what public policy is all about. Its really about: can we
support those who come into the world with the least? This is the
real test for us.
Theres a tenacity about Bell thats infectious.
It didnt come easily, though. She grew up on welfare. Her
dad skipped out early. Her mom was loving and supportive, but struggled
raising two kids when she was still a teenager.
Im not supposed to be here, at Harvard,
answering these questions, Bell says. I was supposed
to be a statistic.
But shes clearly not at least not a predictable
one. She snagged an undergraduate scholarship to the prestigious
New England Conservatory of Music to study opera. (The babies
love the singing, though they enjoy Carmen less than they do the
Itsy-Bisty Spider, which I sing with a classy little
jazz swing!) She spent two years with the Peace Corps in Guinea,
where she helped deliver babies and learned the importance of celebrating
birth something she rarely saw in the poor West African nation
where hope for a long, happy life is minimal. The Boston Globe named
her one of its 2002 inspirations. Last semester, she
earned straight As. Throughout, shes amazingly calm.
I dont need a lot of sleep, she
jokes when asked how she manages. Diet Mountain Dew also helps.
Loans on top of loans pay most of her way. (The state gives her
less than $15 a day to cover each childs expenses.) And although
her mother died just after she graduated from the conservatory,
the lingering effect of her love pulls Bell through.
Although my mom struggled when we were growing
up, she loved us deeply, Bells says. I know that loving
a person makes his or her life better. Each of us has the power
to change lives, just by caring. My mom was right: after you go
through the really bad parts, the rest is cake. I love the quote
by Churchill that says, If youre going through hell,
keep going! I want to help people keep going, even if I have
to carry them myself through the worst of it. LH
Saved
by the Bell: the Numbers


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